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It's is eternally true that men and women are two totally different entities. Some say women are overloaded with hormones, estrogen and feelings. Some say men have to much testosterone, are simple creatures, and think more with their head, than their heart. Whatever the case may be, when it comes to having an argument between men and women, it's truly a battleground. As all men know, we can only argue but so long before we drop a four letter word and walk off. Where as women will argue until they lose their voice. Even if the man won the argument, he's still going to lose in the end. This has various meanings and those who know know and those who don't know, will learn very soon. I mean it goes both ways, but for the most part, the ladies have the upper hand. Like they say, "If mama ain't, ain't nobody happy!" Now ladies, I am going to generalize, yet I will admit that not all women are like this, just, mostly, all of them. Resisting The Transference of Energy
The easiest way to explain this one is to give you a basic science lesson. Take off your hat, stop chewing gum, stop passing notes, PAY ATTENTION!!! (Had a flash back!)
Energy is transferred from one object to another, but only when theirs a reaction. The object that's reacting receives energy as light, heat, motion and/or more, but the one that stands out to me is the motion. Energy... Motion... Emotion!!! Get it?Women know many ways to get a reaction from a man. Sometimes it's totally unwarranted, but we get hit with it anyway.
Guys, Imagine your sitting on the couch, watching the game, drink some suds on a Sunday, the lawns cut, and all is right with the world. The woman of your life either comes in pissed off, gets a bad phone call, basically she's just heated and walks in and sees you happy. Again, this isn't all women, but some women will get even more pissed off because your not mad too. I know it sounds crazy, but it's actually a thing.
At this point, she will try to start an argument.
"The television is too loud."
"All you do is sit on the couch and watch sports."
"I don't like what you made for dinner, why didn't you call and ask me what I wanted."
Blah, blah, blah...
It could be any number of things that a female may pitch at you. The key is to get an argument started, simply to piss you off. To get you so damn frustrated and upset, you are now feeling like her or worse and guess what? She nows starts to feel better. Sometimes it's not even on purpose, females just need to release their bad vibes onto someone else, usually a man, if they can't get any satisfaction out of talking it out with someone. Fellas, if you keep your cool, you can easily wear her down and side step this.
This is where you say, "I know you like the back of my hand. Come here girl, talk to me, what's wrong?" Then you let her vent. If she doesn't want to, leave the offer open and resume what you were doing. More than likely, she will start talking within five minutes. Simply, listen...
This one is the most important of them all. No matter what level, how long, how many times, if all is good or not, this one can be cast on you anywhere, any place, anytime. This is a woman's bread and butter. This you must learn to reject young grass hopper!
Speak When Spoken To
Some women will just simply come in and talk about their day. This sounds harmless enough, but if you say the wrong thing at the wrong time, your up shits creek. So what do you do? You shut your mouth and sit there and listen. Let her vent and get it all out. Of course there will be the occasional need to say "Uh-huh" or some type of acknowledgement letting her know she's still the focal point of your existence at that point in time.
Never, ever, disagree or call her out on something she could have done better until she has calmed down and got it all off of her chest. You may want to wait until the next morning and don't volunteer your opinion unless it coincides with her opinion. Even if she ask for your honest opinion, find a way to say your opinion that sounds like her opinion. If you can't do that, you have a few choice responses I think you should commit to memory:
"Everything is going to be fine, baby."
"Karma is everything, don't even worry about it."
"Don't let anyone steal your happiness!"
There's a few more, but, these are some of the standard responses. These simple phrases may just be enough to talk her down off the ledge.
Passive Agreeance
Most guys have this one down pat. When the misses is talking to you and you are engaged in a hobby, television, a book, fixing the car, what ever, you respond to everything with "Hmmm" , "Wow", "Uh - huh", or "Cool". Basically, we really aren't completely listening. We just hear enough to know when to respond. That's why when women say, "Don't you remember me telling you?" or something to that effect, men make a dumb face and ask the women to tell them again. It happens all the time. Beyond this, guys really need to be careful. You could just be saying yeah, uh-huh and such and not realize you agreed to do something or go somewhere. Being in auto response pilot mode you could have completely missed a request she slipped in and you now just created your next argument some where down the line.
She is Always Right
The number one way to win a argument with a woman is don't argue. As a legendary martial artist would be say, the art of fighting with out fighting. Yes, I know it sounds like your punkin' out, and your right!!! No matter what she says to you, she is right.
She calls you:
A lazy dog... She's right.
A selfish bastard... She's right.
Whatever she says... She's right.
It takes two to argue. If you don't argue, she won't be able to piss you off and she will get way more pissed off. Your goal isn't to piss her off. Your goal is to stay happy. Most of the time it's not even about right and wrong, women just like to express themselves especially when they're upset. Everyone is on the hit list when a woman is upset. The kids, the dog, the car, the sun, the moon, everyone and everything. The best place to be when a women is upset is a great distance away from her.
Now, if you did something truly dumb and she's attacking you, then you gotta man up and take your licks. But, if she's just in a bad mood and wants to be spiteful, take all my advice and run with it.
Win, Win, Win, No Matter What!!!
Disclaimer: All people and situations are different. This may not work for everyone, but it does work.